Image via WikipediaMany of us seem to race towards goal after goal in the hopes that this next goal with ultimately be the thing that makes us happy. But time and time again- after the newness of this attained g
oal has worn off- we are out seeking the next thing that is sure to fill us with happiness.
I have heard the quote "Life is a journey not a destination" many times in the past and I think it can mean many things depending on where you are in your life. Today it means to me that we need to enjoy the present moment! When we are so focused on the unattained future we suffer greatly due to a deep longing for what we do not have. The funny thing is that we so often miss all that is around us and in some cases the very thing we are looking for. If we are able to find peace and joy in this very moment we are relaxed enough to pay attention to that which is all around us.
There are times that you may be very sad because you don't have the mate you want- or career etc.- and you slum around without showering or caring for yourself. You may venture out of the house totally unaware of others around you because you are so absorbed in your sadness and pain. Now the question I ask you is what if on that "journey" out of your home you met a potential mate, employer or business opportunity? Do you think anything will truly blossom here if you are in such a state of despair? Perhaps you or the other person don't connect because you are doing everything you can to not stand out or be seen.
Image by Bohman via FlickrIt's like trying to find your keys when you have lost them. You search frantically around the living room, kitchen and bedroom and can't find them anywhere. You are so stressed out that you search again and again. Perhaps you plop down on the couch to give up your search and there right in front of you are those keys you have been looking for for the last 20 minutes.
That which you want may be right in front of you, but you need to get out of your head to see it! Expect the unexpected and keep your eyes open. Life doesn't always go the way we plan because it may have something even better to offer us. If we are so focused on what "must be" we lose sight of what "might be".
I encourage you to begin to look at life like a journey to be traveled, not a destination to be rushed too. Find beauty in everyday- but most importantly find beauty in yourslef- for when you truly see the beauty that lies within you, you will see the world in a whole new way!
May you have a blessed and abundant day and life:)
Elizabeth Cappelletti, MA, LMFT